Our mood is impacted by many variables in our lives if we let it. Our hectic lifestyles, poor self care, habits, emotional problems, the weight of our history, etc. can all have a huge impact on how we feel and therefore how available we are in our relationship(s).
But how we feel can also be a choice. We can train ourselves to live with better moods. Our perception is the engine behind our feelings. How we choose to look at our world, how we choose to narrate our story, and receive what it offers dictates how we feel. How we let information in and wear it on our body influences our mood! (for a more detailed explanation: Unlimited Power (by Anthony Robbins)
If you choose to look at a situation from a negative angle, and in your mind’s eyes it is big, loud, blinding, tight, looming, your feelings associated with the situation will include powerlessness, hopelessness, overwhelm, fear, worry. If you look at the same situation and make it small, far away, quiet, malleable, open the feelings generated now will include mastery, control, hope, strength, ease, power.
The same is true for good stuff – if you look at them as big, loud, bright, colorful, expansive, all encompassing you will feel ecstasy, excitement, zest, joy, exuberance; if you look at them as small, distant, dull, quiet you will miss out on the joy and gift of the moment!
Also, depending on how we choose to perceive something, we decide to act on it and let it impact us accordingly. We have ideas of how we should look depending on what we believe the impact is on us: If we think we should be tired because we didn’t get enough sleep, we carry ourselves tire like and feel tired. If we think something is supposed to make us happy, we smile and we feel joy. If we think we should be overwhelmed because we have a lot to do, we droop our shoulders with the weight of the world, and feel hopeless and powerless. Get my drift? You try it. Choose a perception, see how you carry it on your body and how you feel.
Hence, you can choose how to perceive, let stuff in and the meaning you assign to it, and how you act and carry it on your body and take control of your mood in any instance!
You can, starting right now, have the mood you want at any moment in time. When you choose positive moods consistently over time, you rewire your brain with new neurological pathways where it learns to feel good on its own and it won’t require as much effort or consciousness on your part.
You feel the way you choose to feel. When you choose to assign a negative meaning to a situation or interaction and choose anger, jealousy, resentment, or other negative feelings it is difficult to feel loving, nurturing, open and available to be in connection with your partner. Choose right now to view your relationship, situation, interaction differently and to have a flirtatious, sexy, fun, warm, caring, loving mood and invite your partner into connection!
Complete the MetroRelationship™ Assignment below to help you effortlessly implement this, make changes and immediately start experiencing your awesome relationship, and Authentic Life…
Catch yourself feeling cranky or other negative feelings.
Practice changing the meaning you are assigning to the moment and make your body have the look of the feelings associated with the new meaning…
Emma K. Viglucci, LMFT
Emma K. Viglucci is the Founder and Director of Metropolitan Marriage & Family Therapy, PLLC, a private practice that specializes in working with couples, is the creator of the MetroRelationship(tm) philosophy and a variety of Successful Couples™ programs and products that assist couples succeed at their relationship and life. To get your downloadable relationship enrichment insights and receive her weekly successful couples articles, nurturing nuggets (sm) and other resources visit: www.metrorelationship.com.